On May 8th this year I will be celebrating my first year since my divorce. I know many people may not see it this way, but I see this as a major accomplishment. Getting a divorce was the very best thing that I have done for myself in a very long time. It freed myself from the shackles of a codependent relationship and this has allowed me the space and freedom to grow further than I ever could’ve imagined. Everything from the past that I felt like I had to give up or lost has been replaced by far better than what I once had. There are some people who may see a divorce as a step backward, but I see my divorce in a different light as a step forward in a better direction. This step has pointed me in the right direction towards fulfilling my life’s goals and dreams. Never stay in dead end relationships of any kind whether romantic, familiar or friendship. It is our relationships in life that influence us more than any other thing in our lives. Be picky and have high standards, because it is those standards that will define the quality of your life and your ability to function within it. So many people associate divorce with grief and while that is true for a period of time it is also true that a divorce should be celebrated. For me it has been a journey through a passage of ending a dysfunctional way of life and beginning a new and healthier way of life. The grief I once had is now replaced with gratitude for my freedom. If you’re dealing with a divorce right now or the ending of any kind of relationship try to understand the possible gift of freedom that you’re being given. Even though it is scary at first and sad over time those feelings will transform and you will transform along with them. That transformation can be for the better and help you to become the person you want to and live the way you truly want to, if you let it.
Until next time…
Namaste!
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